MONDAY PEP TALK | How to Embrace & Navigate Change
Here’s your latest Monday Pep Talk…
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Many of my clients come to me because they want change but they're scared. You can probably relate, right? You might not even know what you want to change, but you know that there's something else out there.
Why am I fearful of change?
We all have something at work in our minds called 'the ego', which is the part of your being whose primary intention is to keep you safe, and small. The ego sees change as risky and dangerous, so it plays a voice on loop in your head of "don't do that", "you'll fail", "stay in the same place; I like it here". The ego lives in your mind, whereas your soul and intuition lives in your body. This is why I place so much importance in my work on embodiment which is the practice of taking your intentions and knowledge from your head, and moving it down into your body. You know the saying "Get out of your head!".
There's also the little fact that 80% of the thoughts we think on a daily basis are negative, and most of those negative thoughts are repeated from the days before. So we're actually wired to think negatively and not back ourselves. The way to think less negative thoughts is to lean into discomfort and do things that feel scary - which will prove to your subconscious (control tower) that you can do scary things.
How do I embrace change?
Get clear on your intention. Why do you want this change? What will it allow you to be, do or have? Connect to that, and keep connecting back into that throughout the journey.
Crystallise your vision. What does this change entail? What does the end goal look or feel like? What steps do you need to take to get there? Who needs to be involved? How will I get from where I am to where I want to be? What are the actual action steps? Do 10 minutes of visualisation every day of what this change will feel like in your body (aka embodiment).
Affirm yourself. Your ego will be on red alert as soon as you set an intention for change. Notice it. Speak to it. Remind it that you're safe and it's okay to be afraid of change. Act anyway. Keep connecting back to your Why. The universe will send you tests (which can feel sh*tty) to see how serious you are about this change. Take the tests. Do mirror work and tell yourself that you are worthy and capable and deserving of this change.
Anna, what have you learnt about change?
I have had a lot of change over the past 3 years, but it's actually been more of a remembering of who I am at my core. Who I am when I'm not: scared of heartbreak, scared of failing in my career, scared of not having any friends, scared of not being attractive enough, scared of eating the wrong things etc etc etc. I wouldn't say that I have no fear now, I do, but I act anyway. I love taking action in the face of fear, because I know how much growth is on the other side of that.
What I always tell my clients is that your freedom lives on the other side of your fear. That feeling of utter bliss and contentment that you're seeking? It's probably going to mean changing something or doing something scary first. Resigning from the job. Ending the relationship. Ending the friendship. Moving away. Starting the side hustle. Setting boundaries. Speaking your truth. Coming out to your parents about who you really are.
What I can tell you for sure is that you won't regret it, but it takes TRUST. Change is fun. It's a portal to who you really are. It builds resilience. It brings new things into your life that you hadn't even considered. It increases your ability to manifest tenfold.
Try this: Write down ONE THING that you want to change in your life right now. Write down the what, how, and why. (I'm not so attached to the when).
Here are some journalling prompts you can try:
What will making this change allow me to be, do or have?
What will happen if I DON'T make this change? How will my life be?
What will happen if I DO make this change? How will my life be?
Who will I have to become to make this change?
What is one action step I can take today?
Reply back and let me know what you're committed to changing. (And consider whether my Radical Blue 2 group program could be a good container for that?)