MONDAY PEP TALK | How To Shift Old Patterns For Good
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Have you heard people talking about 'rewriting their story'? Pattern shifting employs the same techniques of subconscious reprogramming to change your reality.
Before we dive in, some clarity. A pattern is repeated behaviour--and, for the purposes of this blog--behaviour that isn't serving you or getting you to your desired goal. Self-sabotage is a pattern. Procrastination is a pattern. Codependent behaviour is a pattern. Dating the wrong men is a pattern. Binge eating or drinking is a pattern. Any behaviour that you KNOW isn't getting you the results you desire is a pattern, and it CAN be shifted.
These patterns live in the left side of your brain (analytical side) and we shift them using the right side of your brain (creative side). Stick with me.
Where do ineffective patterns come from?
Patterns are a learned response to a particular stimulus. Viktor E. Frankl, author of popular novel, Man's Search For Meaning, said it best: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
The problem is is that many of us are not taught how to utilise that SPACE. Instead, we react to the stimulus based on what we've been programmed to do by our parents, teachers and society. What I do with my clients is teach them how to use that space in an empowered, non-reactionary way so they can break whatever pattern is keeping them in a loop of ineffective results and dissatisfaction.
Many of us experience trauma at a young age: parents divorcing, school bullies, betrayal etc, that, without the correct awareness and teaching, elicits a reactionary, un-conscious response. This response then becomes a pattern. Every time that trauma is triggered, we have the same response.
Anna, what patterns have you noticed?
Many of you know my story. When I was 5 years old my parents split, and my Dad would have me and my brother stay over every second weekend. At the age of 12 this stopped and I developed the belief that "Dad doesn't love me anymore", "love is unsafe" and "men always leave."
Over the course of my dating life, I have almost always attracted in emotionally unavailable men. I have held a wall up to them, not fulling allowing them in (because "they'll leave anyway!"), and then becoming utterly heartbroken when they did leave, as the abandonment I experienced with my Dad resurfaced. Abandonment and rejection are patterns that I continually relive and have done a lot of inner work to shift.
How do I shift ineffective patterns?
Get clear on what they are. Which area of your life often feels challenging, and what behaviour might be contributing to that?
Remember how I said patterns live in the left side of your brain? We can shift them by crafting a new outcome to whatever story you are telling yourself. This is something I shared about on Insta yesterday. So use that neglected right side of your brain to dream up new stories about yourself, to vision what you want your life to look and feel like. Really allow yourself to feeeeel into how this future vision feels, as this is what will imprint this into the quantum field.
Meditate. Meditate. Meditate. Listen to reprogramming tracks while you fall asleep as this is when your brain is in optimum reprogramming state.
Trick yourself into believing a new thought. E.g. I don't love going to the gym, but I have started saying to myself multiple times a day "I'm so excited to go to the gym!" and before I know it, I'm actually excited to go.
And I don't even need to tell you that this is something we'll be mastering in Radical Blueprint mastermind, so hop on over and check whether it might be a good fit.
Here are some journalling prompts you can try:
What patterns do I keep playing out?
How am I contributing to my reality?
What gets to shift in my current reality?
In my vision I am.....
Watch this: Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe Dispenza (12 mins)
Ask yourself this: What patterns in my life am I super proud of and want to continue?