Perfectionism is a pattern - a form of self-sabotage - that effectively sets you up for failure. This quest to have 'everything perfect' is both an avoidance technique - "I can't start til I'm 100% ready" and a way to beat yourself up for not getting things 'perfect'. Why? Because the goal posts keep shifting relative to where your self-worth is currently at. It's a fallacy. Low self-worth = even more reason to strive for perfection.Read More
You may be in total denial (like me) that we only have 3 months left of 2019. Crazy! How has this year gone for you? How are you feeling in your body? How are your relationships? Do you enjoy the career you're in? Are you happy?
It's no surprise that I've had more people than usual reaching out to me these past few weeks saying "something just doesn't feel right". "I need support."
Attachment is the action of taking something that isn’t a part of you and making it part of you (and your identity) through energetic or emotional investment. Attachments come in the form of objects, beliefs, outcomes, roles, experiences and ‘shoulds’.Read More
'White space' is a term commonly used in graphic design to describe the space given between creative objects to 'let them breathe' essentially. There's nothing more unhelpful and unproductive than a cluttered mind. So the term white space is being used a lot in my world and I use it with my clients to describe periods of time where you have nothing in your calendar where you can just BE. After all, we are human BEINGS rather than human DOINGS.Read More
I learnt a lot at the Wim Hof method workshop I attended over the weekend with Element Health but one of the things that really stood out to me was how wired we have become for comfort. We seem to do everything in our power to avoid feeling the cold (and also the heat). We have heat pumps, electric blankets, underfloor heating, heated toilet seats (!), heating in our cars, in our offices, and scalding hot showers.Read More
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt on this self-development journey I’m on it’s boundaries. Healthy, empowered boundaries are one of the fundamentals I teach my clients, and it's a topic I'm personally passionate about, because my life truly started to transform when I started discovering and honouring my boundaries.Read More
Have you heard people talking about 'rewriting their story'? Pattern shifting employs the same techniques of subconscious reprogramming to change your reality.Read More
I hope everyone has had a restful Easter weekend. I had been feeling super exhausted after coming home from Bali, getting slammed by the full moon (3 nights of very interrupted sleep and sore head), so the long weekend was very much chill mode. I had been feeling rather sad and jaded after arriving back - for a number of reasons - but once that full moon passed, it’s like a proverbial cloud lifted from me and I was re-inspired to dive back into work, getting lots of downloads and just feeling all round excited. Never underestimate the power of the moon, I always say. She’s a handy scapegoat when I need one.Read More
Yesterday I arrived in Ubud, the second week of my month-long trip and it hasn’t been altogether pleasant. But I feel like Ubud is that kind of place - it’s a spiritual vortex that gives you exactly what you need, not necessarily what you want. And I feel like something I would like to work on inside myself right now is patience.Read More
It’s Sunday, a little over a week until my next trip to Bali and I’ve just gotten back from an epic Kundalini yoga class at my fave Yoga Ground here in Auckland. I plan to do a lot of yoga while I’m in Bali so have been easing back into it. In all honesty, I can count on one hand the number of classes I’ve taken since my last trip to Bali last August.. I tend to dip in and out of it. And right now my focus has been on F45 and walking my dogs.Read More
You’ve no doubt heard of the Law of Attraction, made famous by the book and film The Secret by Rhonda Byrne which first launched in 2006. But what you mightn’t be familiar with is the Law of Vibration which serves as a foundation of Law of Attraction and is one of the most important Universal laws to contemplate. What this principle teaches us is that everything in the world is energy.Read More
What is a new year without setting some goals? I’ve never been a big fan of resolutions, as they seem so loaded in expectation, and there’s a timeliness to them that doesn’t sit well with me. But I am a fan of setting intentions and goals for a new year. Some people set these at the start of a new year, and others set them on their birthday, so as it was my birthday earlier this month (Feb 3rd!), I’m choosing the latter. After all, every year we are essentially reborn :)Read More
For Mental Health Awareness Week last week I was invited to speak at Huffer and FCB Media about managing stress and anxiety in the workplace. Speaking from experience, as someone who had to navigate the turbulent seas of dealing with a mental illness in the workplace (without wanting to tell anyone) and trying to stay afloat as executive assistant to the CEO of a busy media agency, here are the top tips I shared.Read More
Hypnosis has been gaining traction as a treatment for anxiety. But is it effective? I recently had a session with a counsellor and hypnotherapist and here I open up about my experience, including the lightbulb realisation I had.Read More
What is it about the dreaded ‘F’ for failure that stops so many people from following their dreams? In this article I dig into why the fear of failure stops us in our tracks, and how to move through it.Read More